by An Ordinary Man (the novel)
Thought-provoking article on open marriages by Mel Robbins, an attractive, female CNN Commentator today in which she states the obvious, if, but only if, you think it through:
When you step outside your marriage and into another person’s bed you may say its “just sex” — but in reality you just invited that person to step into your whole life, and they probably will. You’ll be in your kitchen, with your spouse, when the texts appear on your phone. Are you free Saturday? You’ll be driving in your car with your kids, when the song that reminds you of your lover plays. And suddenly, they are right there in the car with you.
It’s a brilliant piece worthy of being read and passed along. Richard Wilson, the protagonist in An Ordinary Man, looked at it even more mechanically:
One of [Richard’s] rebuttals to Andrew’s enthusiasm about new flesh was always that using a condom meant that Andrew never really got to touch any of it. He and Liz had used one a few times – textured “for her” – but he found them too antiseptic. True sex required the intermingling of bodily fluids; the female covered the male with hers and the male in turn covered the female. It was the best argument for monogamy. No matter how thin and sensitive, wearing one meant you were, by definition, not naked.
Either way, the argument for monogamy remains pretty strong.