Virginity Pledges Undermine Intimacy (imho)
by An Ordinary Man (the novel)
This seems like something of a no-brainer; men who take chastity vows and rely upon the support of others to help them maintain these (rather unrealistic) promises, get lost after their wedding night, according to a study presented to the American Sociological Society, as reported by the New York Daily News.
Sex is something entirely for the couple to explore, discover, and work out, in fits and starts, in glorious swoopes of passion and potentially paralyzing bouts of awkwardness – nothing could be more private for them. A chastity vow, on the other hand, is more of a public political statement regarding something that is absolutely no one’s business but the two involved with each other. I cannot imagine how one of them would feel hearing the other discuss how they’ve managed to abstain ….
These men have deprived themselves of the love, guidance, joy and friendship of the most important person in their lives for no discernible reason other than to further the aims of the group to which they belong. Public affirmations that we’re NOT doing it are as tasteless as bragging about how you are and neither put the relationship on solid ground.