“Life is short; have an affair?”

by An Ordinary Man (the novel)

That is the motto, without the question mark, of AshleyMadison.com, the notorious website enabling cheaters to cheat. Its founder, Noel Biderman, is profiled in today’s edition of The the New York Daily News. Interestingly, Mr. Biderman claims he has not cheated on his own wife, who, according to the photograph included in the article, is quite attractive.


Not surprisingly, she says she would be “devastated” if she caught him having sex outside their marriage and to his credit, he cites this devastation as one of the reasons he hasn’t strayed. But I hope she keeps in mind how he would feel if, for some reason, their marriage would slide into sexlessness. An ordinary man is just as devastated by celibacy as an ordinary woman would be by adultery. And, apparently, vice-versa; according to his statistics, what’s good for the gander is also good for the goose as an involuntarily celibate woman is also going to be tempted to cheat as well.

It’s one marital problem that is not impossible to resolve.

photo by paulbuceta.com